Cohabitation, becomes more and more popular recently. Many people stand against this kind of life style because of being worry about their rights after having cohabitation. They said that when the problem of finance or estate occurs, people taking cohabitation would be helpless than people in marriages. So I found a book , which was written by Mireille Dewevre Fourcadeto, to refute these thoughts. Mireille Dewevre Fourcade was a professor of French Le Havre University, and he had done so much studies about cohabitation from Ancient Roman to Modern France. This book named "Cohabitation" talked about how to solve common problems of cohabitation and breaking many misunderstanding concepts by mentioning many set laws. And the translator of this book, hsu lien-kao, made many efforts on in the process of traslating. He said that he tried to interpret the book much more carefully by studying The Six Laws so hard and asking famous jurists.
Some people questioned that how the two people separate their belongings without the indemnification of law if the relationship was broken. This question could be answered in page 26 of "Cohabitation", " In number 1382 terms of the Civil Law, it indicated clearly that if someone cause others' damages, this kind of fact could force this person to be responsible for compensating others' damage." It explained that if our rights were invaded in cohabitation relationship, we could use laws to protect ourselves as well. And the other people were worried about that cohabitation was not in the restriction of law so people who take cohabitation were kind of being not indecent. This nonsense could be broken in page 69, "In the total compilation of laws, only having sex consistently couldn't be admitted as cohabitation. "
Cohabitation is just a way to live a life , not a way to run away from the control of laws or challenge the society deliberately. It is just a concept which has been misunderstood for a long time. And we could see that many things the society used to question on could actually be solved in our set laws. So, stop fussing and take a deeper look on what you were blaming on, maybe it was just read in a wrong way.
同居 / 德韋弗爾-富爾卡德(Mireille Dewevre-Fourcade)著; 許連高譯
臺北市 : 遠流出版 : 信報發行, 1991[民80]
Joselin & Justine
One of my sources was written by an anonymous author, which was collected from a thesis website. But what interests was that my graph was similar with Joselin’s while we had two different analyses. And the mistake we both had was we didn’t find out the background of the author or
writer of the articles we cited.
Eva & Vicky
Eva used many famous people’s statements to support her point, and she was trying to add the international elements into her annotations which were very great. Vicky also done well as digging the background of the author, and it was good and rare to see that both sides showed strong attitudes.
Claire & Emily
Cohabitation, which is used to be considered immoral in ancient Taiwan, should be re-defined nowadays. I found a thesis about cohabitation, which was written by a master student, LI,YA-HUEI,who majored in Department of Human Development and Family Studies in National Taiwan Normal University. It mentioned ," In foreign, Nock (1995) pointed out there were almost half of the US population had experiences of cohabitation before 30-year-old. And YANG,JING-LI(2004) used a census and the marital status distribution of household registration in 2000 A.D. to evaluate the overview of cohabitation in Taiwan. ... , (the population of cohabitation) accounted 5.9% in over-15-year-old and unmarried people." We can see that the rate of cohabitation in Taiwan is far lower than foreign countries. It is because the foreigners takes cohabitation as normal instead of discriminating it like an indiscretion.
And in other paragraph, " Except the United States, in fact, cohabitation has generally accepted in many European countries , such as there are 90% of the Nordic population had experienced premarital cohabitation phase (quoted from YANG,JING-LI,the associate professor of department of Sociology in Nanhua University, 2004). Trost thought the statement that cohabitation is very common in Sweden than in the US is not complete, cohabitation is a kind of social structure rather than deviant behavior unmarried." This studying also mentioned that a research of ZHEN,XIANG-REN about Japanese rate of cohabitation.
"The Reasons to Support Cohabitation:
1. To test if he or she would be a ideal mate.
2. Only care about what we had once.
3. To learn how to face the real life.
4. To have a identity that between single and unmarried.
5. To make the time that fighting together earlier.
6. To make the relationship stable."
- from "Living Together for Love",Yi-Xin Huang,published by Gao-Lin International AG.
Cohabitation, which means couples come up a thought to live together. It becomes more and more popular recently, in the meanwhile, this phenomenon starts to assault the established concept in our society. I also have friends who are thinking about the possibility of cohabitation, however, they all refused eventually which made me to think about their reasons. I'm stand on the positive side even that I'm single, so why are these girls who is in a relationship rejected this cohabitation choice?
We can start from why we should support people to take cohabitation. First, this is a right of liberty that the law allowed. No one could judge or forbid it. Second,couples can see things, understand things, and learn things during the cohabitation. Third, the book I quoted mentioned that cohabitation is to transfer the abstract feelings to reality. This book also said the benefits of the cohabitation, in page 56, it said," The telephone charge that saved could buy two more clothes." And in page 57, it said," The time you two stick together is much longer than separating." These reasons are so practical to approve why the cohabitation should be accepted rather than being discriminated.
Talking about discrimination, cohabitation used to be considered negative, and our first thought while seeing it would be " Those girls who does this must be terrible." How we see this term at this way? Why our first idea comes to blame on girls? It can trace back to our traditional background. In ancient time, people emphasized the virginity of girls because of the domination of masculinity. However, we are living in a world which values the equity, how could we still see things at this old, ancient way? How could we call ourselves modern people when our ideology didn't improve? This kind of thought could be called prejudice nowadays. And there is one more interesting thing that "Live Together for Love" mentioned, maybe the boys are at the disadvantage. It is surprising that they could suffer from their masculism that they always want to pay for all the life stuff or the things to cater to their girlfriends even that they never have to do this. So we'll never know who's the winner, then we can't give judgement to the couples who take cohabitation.
Somebody may questions about the sexual part that men and women are born with different body structure, it would push women into disadvantage and dangerous way. I think this part is true that women would suffer from being pregnant more than men, however, I don't think this could be a obstacle that even the couple don't live together, they still could have sex, what matters is not how long they spend together, it's how much they want to. So cohabitation is not the motive to make couples have sex.
There is no right-or-false question in the definition of cohabitation. Cohabitation is only a kind of way for lovers to understand his or her lover deeply.That is exactly why I support couples to do the cohabitation at their will because understanding is the most important part of a relationship. The concern about the freshness fading away is totally unnecessary, when you grow up and have to marry someone, that one you choose must be mature enough to face the reality, the development of love and the entire life with you. Each-other-understanding is far important than freshness.
同居潮流，屋簷下的親密關係 /黃憶欣 著